I'm a better mother than you.

The title sais it all. In the last few weeks this has really hit me hard. To the point that it makes me want to leave Facebook.
So why do I stay?
Facebook is a amazing tool to keep in contact with old friends, family and really, anyone you're not close with in real life. I don't have the luxury of living near family and my friends I grew up with, so it's so convenient to just hop on Facebook and send a message. People rarely have time to sit down for a long phone call these days..But that's where it ends. It can be toxic.
Women especially are unbelievable. Moms to be more specific. I've no idea why this is. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs, ever. So why do we judge each other so harshly?
It sickens me.
A Page I "liked" on Facebook recently put up a post that asked us followers this:
"Do you feel sorry for formula fed babies?"
At first glance I thought it was pretty normal, formula fed babies have been taking critisizim for a while now... so it was nothing new. But the responses were unbelievable.
Of course I breastfed both boys, and I feel that that was the right choice for my family..... but why do you NEED to care about someone else's baby? I just don't get it.
Why do you need to sit behind your computer screen and be SO harsh to a mom that's most likely trying her hardest!? Would you really say that in real life? Probably not...unless you've no manners and really don't care about anyones feelings.
So why does a screen change this? You're still talking to real people and hurting REAL peoples feeling.
 As I write this I'm quite angry... so maybe getting the "word" out will calm me down a bit.
Back in the 50/60/70's it was normal to formula feed. Breastfeeding was almost looked down on as gross. But yet millions of babies survived and went to lead a very successful generation.
There again, I'm not saying you should formula feed, or let your child eat chalk for breakfast.. but give a mom a break.
You were given the privilege of  mothering your child ( children ).. so why do you feel the need to voice your opinion and parent everyone else's?
This really relates to everything. I'm just using milk as a example..

We bought Sunshine Radian carseats when Cai was three months old and Hudson was eighteen months because Cai was simply squashed in his bucket. He was eighteen pounds at three months, and so uncomfortable. At twelve months I switched Cai to forward facing because he was thirty-one pounds and LONG. I had so many moms on my Facebook email to tell me this was a wrong decision and that if I was in a car accident I would be sorry.
I'm sorry, did I ask for your opinion? Eff off. ( That's what I thought...Christians still have thoughts folks! )
I had Hudson rear facing until he was twenty-five months and prior to having Cai I was one of those Crunchy moms. Do well and be better. Meaning I cloth diapered, breastfed, co slept, rear faced ( had planned on it until they were four ) Made all natural foods from scratch, every meal and oh and the list goes on...
But when my twelve month old started to scream entire car rides, pushing his big chunky legs on the seat, flailing his arms and crying so hard he would stop breathing, I decided it was time to turn him around.
Best choice ever. I mean, I could of kept him rear facing, but that would of required YOU to run all my errands, I wasn't ready to be stuck in a vehicle with him any longer.Especially since he was still getting up every thirty minutes a night to breastfeed. Holy Cheese, I was cranky!

I'm sick and tired of YOU. You, if you're reading... Stop judging. Stop thinking you're better. Life can change in a second and you with your perfect methods and perfect parenting might be forced to look at a different way of parenting, and you may be judged for it.

Here's a wake up call. You'll never be a perfect parent. You may be the best parent  your child could have, but you'll never be a perfect parent, and certainly not the best parent for my kids. Someone will always have something to say. Why don't we as moms come to a collective agreement to start loving?
I've come to terms with this, and I've decided that when I see hurt flood my page, that friend will get unfriended, or that "liked" page will be deleted.. Because no one needs more negative in their life.  No one.

I know personally I try my hardest, I love my kids more than another person could love them. I try to be creative and caring. I try to feed them to the best to my ability.. as hard as it is to feed a child who only wants to eat pizza all the time.
My kids aren't perfect, I'm not perfect... but neither are you.


Footnote: Just to clarify, I love opinions... but opinions that are shared with love and if asked. Opinions are fantastic and I'm friends with a lot of different mothers who discipline, eat, sleep and think different. What counts is that you when you open your mouth, you think, how would I like to be talked to? How would I like to feel?